"In the beginners mind there are many possibilities. In the experts mind there are few." ~ Shunryu Suzuki.
It's a simple concept. But boy is it hard to master. We try to teach, coach, help, support and even counsel and in so doing we believe that... Well ~ We have expectations. Maybe that's part of the problem ~ part of our frustration. People don't do what we recommend and we wonder why - or worse we come up with a conclusion - an answer.
Bruce Lee probably said it best:
"In order to learn we must first empty our own cup". Yet we get frustrated because other people have not emptied their cups to take in the advice or insight we offer ~ But we haven't emptied our own cup.
Wow this stuff is certainly a vicious circle.