"We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done." ~ H. W. Longfellow
First of all let's get one thing out of the way. We are all judged and we all judge. Let's not kid ourselves. We do it every day. We judge quality, content, character and value both in things and people every minute of every day. We determine worth and make decisions based on those determinations. So what are the primary criteria that we are all judged by? What are the main areas that influence the thoughts of others?
I submit that we are judged by the three 'R' s.
What have we done, what are we doing and what do we repeat? In life as opposed to investments past performance is an indicator of future results. People can change but in the majority of cases we will do what we have always done and get what we have always got unless we do something significantly different. If you want different results...
People will treat, respect and behave toward us as they believe us to be. The reality is we all get in direct proportion to what we give in life. Character and Reputation is pretty transparent over time. We are what we most frequently think about and our actions follow those thoughts. Thoughts determine actions, actions determine habits, habits determine character, character determines reputation. Want a better life? Build a better Reputation. Think Better Thoughts and Give more. Give More and you Get More.
Great relationships are the breakfast of champions. Want a better life? It's simple - Build Better Relationships. There's an old Japanese proverb that says "When the character of a man isn't clear to you, look at his friends.” When we improve our relationships we improve our life.