"That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
~ Friedrich Nietzsche.
The young sergeant was devastated. A man he had made promises to was dead. A really close friend. What good could come of any of this he thought. It's all bad. It's all pointless. It's existentialism defined.
Then the team leader came over to him and said ~
When something bad happens you have three choices.
You can let it destroy you.
You can let it define you.
Or you can let it strengthen you.